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Independence Day | when BBQ, Beer and Belching is not enough

According to Wikipedia, Independence Day, commonly known as the Fourth of July or July Fourth, is a federal holiday in the United States commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, declaring independence from Great Britain. Independence Day is commonly associated with fireworks, parades, barbecues, carnivals, fairs, picnics, concerts, baseball games, family reunions, and political speeches and ceremonies, in addition to various other public and private events celebrating the history, government, and traditions of the United States. Independence Day is the National Day of the United States.

Sounds like a pretty festive event will take place in the U.S. this weekend.  Parties galore, a day off from work for most everyone…Wait ! Independence Day falls on a Saturday this year which likely means we will be allowed an independent day from our employer on Friday or Monday as well.  Was that an oxymoron?  Let it sink in.

During a recent discussion with Andreas on writing a 4th of July post it didn’t take us long to agree that we are pretty much done with barbecue and beer reads linked to Independence Day, at least this year. It feels rather alien. I mean don’t get us wrong, we enjoy food, fun and fireworks.  Dre, a professional basketball player and 6′ 10″ certainly has not missed many meals. And during my last 2 years of eating Paleo-healthy, I certainly have not missed my one (or two) “cheat” meals per week, but this year seems, well, not very independent.  Before you come down on us for being Debbie-downers, please hear me out.  I will do my best to ensure this does not come across as a political, socio-economic rant.

So instead of a full-on tirade, lets just say this year has been tumultuous in the U.S. as it relates to relationships inside its diversified population.  I will not go into detail since this stuff is all over social media, the news and blogs. Smartphones have captured everything we need to know to conclude we are not yet an Independent nation.  Barbecue and beer is not enough when we witness hate crimes, church shootings, church burnings, police brutality, police resistance and obstruction, glamorized youth fighting videos, flags burning, red flags; a culture of racism…

All the while, people domestically and internationally of all nationalities, race and color are starving. They have no shelter, they have no water, no food, no love.  They. do. not. have…

Please don’t forego your barbecue and beer-experience  on account of this post, but the reality of it is we believe there is much more to life than waiting on an employer to announce an Independence Day holiday, then eating and drinking until we pass out on the couch; waking up and continuing our own little status quo lives.  It starts with intellect that is not enslaved. Material change of each individual’s learned prejudices, fears, and outdated beliefs of other human beings. That’s what the Evoke Socks movement is all about because in 2015, a day off, barbecue, beer and belching is simply not enough to claim national independence.  Change and charity starts internally with each of us!


Top 5 Father’s Day Gifts

Well, Father’s Day is upon us once again and I thought it a great idea to help you select the perfect gift for me your father or husband.  The days of “glow in the dark ties” and, “My Dad is the best Dad” white tees are gone.  Afterall, it’s 2015, right?

It’s time to step up your Father’s Day gift game this year because fathers are tired of playing second fiddle to the female counterparts’ day which is overflowing with pomp and circumstance. Mother’s Day is similar to an annual coronation of the Queen while father’s day is like buying your pet dog a new doggy toy. Woof! Ok, ok ok, the list. The gift list IS in order of preference:

1.  2016 Audi R8 – The retail price starts around $115,000 but no father deserves the base model.  That’s like a slap in the face.  The price is much less than some other high performance vehicles and I would consider it a discounted gift if I received the keys to this bad boy.  What a savings!


2. 1963 Chevy Impala Low Rider – Today was a good day. Don’t judge me.  I live in L.A.  I grew up in L.A. I consider the ’63 Impala the Godfather of all low-riders.  This purple beauty happens to belong to Kobe. Hit me up bruh!


3. A trip to Greece – All expenses paid, please. The end.

courtesy www.marketwatch

4. Sprezza Box – The Gents Lounge premium edition box that is.  Times have changed.  Men want to express themselves fashionably but we either don’t have the time or we despise going to the mall, or both.  The future is now and there are subscription boxes ranging from shaving needs to clothing accessories.  This premium box features some really cool stuff by some awesome brands.  It retails for only $100 but is valued in excess of $200 !


5. Shibuya Sushi – And when it’s all said and done, we’ll settle for…food.  Nestled in Calabasas, this quaint little restaurant hands down has the best Sushi in the area and maybe L.A.. However, you better get there early or you may be in for a long wait. But waiting isn’t all that bad since you never know who you might run into. Start with the albacore.



One gift not on the list but a gift we believe all father’s should receive is a good old-fashioned hug.  Take the time to acknowledge him on his special day, and then hand over the keys!

Happy Father’s Day, dads!

as written for Evoke Socks , Wear To Inspire

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The cocky misunderstanding™

Cocky (adj): Having  or showing confidence in a way that is annoying to other people.

Are you the type of person who has never, I repeat, never held a discussion in which you vehemently denied being a cocky person?  If so, this post may not be for you as your time is likely better spent over at wired dot-com or reading Popular Science magazine. However, if your desire is to see how the other half-lives then please, by all means, read with us. What? I kid, those sites are interesting reads and furthermore nerds are en vogue and will continue to be as long as they own the world. I’ll just cut to the chase.

Personally, It seems I’m constantly mistaken for being a cocky man.  My claims of being simply confident in who I am, despite experiencing normal ups and downs in life, seem to blast in one ear and out the other, and I’m referring to friends, family and perfect strangers.  sigh

Here’s my take:  the phenomenon I coined known as “the cocky misunderstanding” (All rights reserved, 2015), comes from one of two if not both of the following scenarios: 1. Outward appearance, and 2. The words we speak.

Firstly, judgement is usually made before one single word is spoken as overtly cocky conclusions are drawn when your appearance is well, dapper or Lookbook quality, particularly when your style is expressive, and bold.  From my perspective, clothes are merely an outward expression of my personality or mood of the day, and not a hands waving, “hey look at me over here”, theatrical event. Nope, not me. My mood changes as does my style but I will always remain confident in who I am regardless of the outfit.  It’s just natural to be bold and expressive when you have a voice and a mind of your very own, and don’t we all?

Secondly, dare not speak positively about, well, something involving lifestyle transformations or change or risk or prosperity or vision as you will quickly be mislabeled.  Let me rephrase, the boldness in which we speak  about these things leads to the cocky misunderstanding. Check any popular blog and you’ll find a troll for every topic known to mankind, in all of history lurking to pounce on anything you say because your confidence annoys them.  Look, It boils down to the actions taken after your voice is heard. It boils down to the actions taken after your voice is heard.

Example:  You see an attractive person sitting alone while you’re talking to a group of friends.  If you’re the only person in your group who will risk it all by walking over, introducing yourself and holding a one on one conversation on the fly with a random, hot stranger, then you have likely been a victim of the cocky misunderstanding.  Action speaks louder than words, and the adjective or verb”hot” is the deciding factor in this scenario as it ups the ante as it relates to ones boldness.  But, it’s just a conversation with someone new.  What could possibly go that far south to the point of embarrassment is how most men think, but the next step is critical.  The next step involves walking over

Example:  If you speak life into every situation. If you  always find a silver-lining despite overwhelming odds.  If you repeat what you can and will do and then put it into action,  then you have likely been a victim of the cocky misunderstanding. Entrepreneurs do it all the time and are applauded and hated for their risk taking ability and wealth overflow lifestyle. Hmm, we want to see what that lives like too, don’t we ? Because we would do it better than them! We would…and then we find out you have to be willing to grind and then try harder.  And take a step and walk.

So whats the moral to this self-absorbed, narcissistic diatribe of a post? There’s a thin line between cockiness and confidence, but a line does in fact exist. When actions engulf your mind (vision) and you see the first step and you’re walking in it then you will understand the meaning of the bold presentation  and her dialogue that exudes confidence.

And furthermore, we’re fragile human beings who need to be heard and cuddled.  And guess what? there are millions of us out there ! So stand up and be heard ! Women and men embrace this call for action !  And it is at this very moment that we wonder how we morphed from 0 to 100 so quickly. Beam me up!
Captain Kirk: cocky or confident?


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Millicent’s Costa Rican Kitchen | Caribbean Flavors in America

I was recently blessed to write the Foreword for my mom’s new #cookbook, Millicent’s Costa Rican Kitchen; Caribbean Flavors in America”.  Details will be coming soon on how you can purchase one of the first autographed copies. I can just smell it!

Millicent’s Costa Rican Kitchen; Caribbean Flavors in America”, is a lifetime of food, flavors, seasonings and traditions unique to Costa Rica and Jamaica all accumulated in one repository, this cookbook.  It includes unique recipes handed down from generation to generation from her early beginnings in the Central American Province of Puerto Limon with the added benefit of being rooted in the spices and traditions of Jamaica.  This unique combination of Tico and Jamaican influenced cuisine makes her cookbook stand out among all others. When I learned she was going to make her succulent traditions available to the world in the form of a cookbook I, at first, licked my lips in utter desire then recalled what it was like when her dishes were a part of my daily life.

As a growing young boy my mouth watered in anticipation as the aroma of brilliant Caribbean flavors emanated from the kitchen. I laid in bed which was located at the furthest point from the kitchen, but I had a keen ear and nose for the sound of cabinets opening and closing, the sizzle and smell of plantains on the stove top and the circular stirring sound of mom whipping up a fresh batch of goodness in one of her many mixing bowls.  It was at this early age that I developed the reputation of being the plantain bandit in the house.  I would walk into the kitchen to conduct a little small talk with my mother and at the moment she turned her back, I snatched a plantain from the finished batch and in one swoop…gulp!

There was no better sound for three developing boys and two girls than the audible ring of the dinner bell. To us it was the sound of royal trumpets at Westminster Hall. It was at this moment we entered into complete pandemonium to be first at the dinner table.  Legs and arms flailing; pushing and shoving; blocking and tackling all to be first to experience what was on the menu.  My father prayed for what seemed like hours and then, finally, we all reached ecstasy and ultimately, a food coma.  We sat at the table for hours, talking and indulging in seconds and most times thirds.  I am of the opinion  good food promotes table conversation, laughter and more laughter.  This was our daily pattern.  This cookbook will bring joy to your life, family and friends.
Arroz Con Pollo

Her recipes will transport you to a Caribbean island without the hassle of a passport, plane and TSA agent.  However, if you turn your back while preparing one of her amazing recipes in your kitchen be acutely aware for the plantain, arroz con pollo or curry chicken bandit; they come in all shapes and sizes. Buen provecho!

Mortimer George Aldridge


Guest fashion writer:

Adult plantain bandit

Los Angeles, CA

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Top 6 things that need to poof, be gone in 2015 !

We decided to give you a few days to get the 2014 backwash out of your system because we knew when the clock struck 12 o’clock on New Year day (Cinderella) you wouldn’t suddenly come to your senses and truly leave 2014 in the past.  So, in no particular order, we’ve put together the top 5 things that need to poof, be gone in 2015:

1.  Twerking –  Somewhere around Miley Cyrus the twerk industry went south, figuratively. Ok, ok, ok, technically it was 2013 but it gained a head of steam in 2014 with #twerkteams that included both men and women.  I lived in Georgia back in the mid-90’s where twerking was an art form not yet known to mainstream America, and only select booty’s were called forth to go up and down.  Twerking did not start in 2014.  Let’s go back to yester-year shall we?  Not all booty’s are made to clap. I think the picture speaks for itself which is more like the snaps at a poetry slam than a full-blown ovation.  To put it lightly…can we bring Hannah Montana back?  please? Love you Miley! Back that thing up.

2.  Men in Black…socks – Guys, there’s a new norm.  Let’s get out of the middle ages and enter into the new millennium in 2015.  This may shock you but Troglodytes are not in vogue. It’s acceptable, wait, it is encouraged to brighten up your life and emerge from your cave with a modern, stylish sock game that speaks to your personality and lifestyle.  Just to clarify, there is still a need for plain black or brown socks so keep a pair in the back of your drawer for that funeral or maybe a…funeral, RIP.  You might find it useful to look through the collection of bold cashmere socks at, and, get an additional 10% off by using the coupon code: titosixtyone.  So, how’s your sock game? for Breast Cancer Awareness

3.  Charles Barkley social and political rants – Chuck, love you to death and as an avid NBA on TNT fan, I look forward to the post game banter between you, Shaq, Kenny and Ernie, but please, please, please do not provide your opinion on anything in 2015 other than basketball!  You have made millions playing the game.  It’s what you know, sorta.  It’s your money-maker.  We don’t care for your thoughts about, well, anything else.  Chuck, when the media approaches you for comments on the next issue America faces, and we know they will, please resist the temptation to answer your phone.   Chuck it’s ok for you to continue making millions and talk basketball.  In other words, no 2015 freebies Chuck.

4. Replacing an “S” with a “Z” –  I thought this one would go away in 2014, but it just seems to persist.  ThiZ Zhit haz to Ztop.  Zee how that workZ?

5. Selfies – My selfie game is on fleek. This one is near and dear to my heart and it is with deep and utter penitence that I must say (gulp)…selfies are dead in 2015. I pride myself on being an intermediate selfie taker-er.  I glamorized my selfie game by writing a post about it, here.  You see, when selfies first became popular, we thought it was just a photo someone took of you, but now it is beyond obvious because your right arm is horizontally in view while your left is posing.  The selfie rookies have taken over the game. Let’s just say, it is time to post quality, SLR pictures.  By the way, an occasional “usie” is ok in 2015.

6. Snarks –  Checkout the popular pictures on Instagram.  Examine anyone who has made a major transformation in their life.  Check out anyone who has socially or financially upgraded.  Checkout anyone who is not basic and there within the confines of his or her mother’s basement and behind the safety of a computer monitor you will find folks who insult, belittle and spread negativity on social media in the very feed of those who are progressive. It’s time for snarks to “get a life” in 2015.

There were many others we could have added to the list, but we stopped at 6 because we stopped at 6.  Here are a few more.  Let’s call these the honorable mention “poofers”:

  • Facebook videos – ghetto fisticuffs videos to be exact.
  • Using the words: “haters”, “awesomeness”, “rachet”, “Bae”, “THOT“, “yassss”, etc.
  • Ice bucket challenges or any challenge for that matter.  Just give!
  • #Hashtagging #every #word or #Hashtaggingeveryword – I’ll do better.
  • Facebook Chain posts – the posts that give you the guilt trip if you don’t share it…Poof, be gone!

So tell us, are there others you would add to the list?  Tell us about your top poofers?  and don’t forget to share this article, the world needs to know.

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